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 How to Find the Right Person to Marry?
For example, Ephesians 5:22 says that a wife should submit to her husband in the same loving way she submits to God. It also says in verse 25 that a husband should love his wife just as much as Christ loved the church, giving His own life for her. Proverbs 31:10-30 describes the ideal wife as a woman of noble character above all, because beauty doesn’t last forever. And I Timothy 5:8 instructs husbands to provide faithfully for their families. (More texts can be found in a Bible concordance under key words such as love, marriage, husband, and wife). Two Becoming One Genesis 2:24 says that when a man leaves his parents to marry a woman, “the two of them become like one person” (CEV). Two becoming like one. Of course “becoming like one” doesn’t mean giving up your uniqueness or opinions. It means becoming one in your goals for life, in your relationship and service to God, in how you relate to people, in your communication, in your views on family, and in your morals. This potential oneness is vital.When Considering Marriage For many years my husband and I have provided premarital counseling for couples. We have found the following suggestions to be important when considering marriage:• Pray. Ask God to strongly impress you if the person you’re dating is the right one. • Get premarital counseling. Pastors and counselors are equipped with tests that can help you see your strengths and weaknesses as a couple. • Know who you’re marrying. Spend time together in various settings and circumstances. Don’t be in a hurry to make a life-long commitment. • Make a list. List the reasons why you want to marry someone. Are they good reasons-- reasons that will remain through the years? • Seek advice. If those who know you best and love you most are uncomfortable with your choice, that’s a red flag. They’re seeing something you might be blind to. • Use common sense. If you’re dating someone who doesn’t share your commitment to God, is abusive in any way, doesn’t want to be around your family and friends, doesn’t make you feel special and loved, or won’t join you in any of your interests, things aren’t going to get better after marriage. They’ll most likely get worse. • Don’t marry in order to “rescue.” Many don’t realize that they’re attracted to someone because they feel sorry for them. Their plan is to “fix things” once they’ve married. Marry a person who is whole. If they’re working through serious issues, give them time to resolve them before you consider marriage. A Lifelong Commitment Marrying someone is far different from having them as a steady boyfriend or girlfriend. You can’t decide you don’t want to be tied down, or that you’d rather be with someone else and simply break up. Marriage is meant to be for life. As in every other decision, God is with you. The One who created marriage can also be the One to lead you to the right companion. ______________________________ By Nancy Canwell. © 2010 AnswersForMe.org. Click here for content usage information. |
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